5 Worthwhile Pieces of Self-Defense Advice Your Mother Gave

Advice that everyone knows and has been told since childhood is the most often ignored. In most cases, these axioms are ignored because you can get away with breaking any one of them without serious consequences. However, you can greatly reduce your risk of victimization by simply listening to your mother.

“Stand in Holy Places”
Essentially this means participating in wholesome activities. “Stand in Holy Places” is perhaps the most disliked self-defense advice because we live in a culture that faults the consequences before the choices that led to those consequences. It is too bad that kids must suffer big consequences for small mistakes, but in regards to self-defense it is unreasonable to point fingers when we can easily stop and realize that we must be good stewards over ourselves.

“Let someone know Where you are going”
Whether you are going hiking in the mountains or on a field trip across state lines, you will save your loved-ones a lot of grief if they know where to look for you in case of an emergency.

“Don’t talk to strangers”
Don’t open up to strangers about personal information (who you are, where you are going, etc.) It is important to be courteous and kind, but if a stranger is being particularly nosy, don’t let them into your personal space. Maintain privacy in public places; including social media. Don’t post pictures of your kids online, or display addresses and phone numbers.

“Choose your friends wisely”
Place yourself in a positive and loving environment. If you must make yourself vulnerable, do it in a group of friends and family rather than in a group strangers or people “you think you know.” Make friends who understand, respect your boundaries, and know what your boundaries are. The Buddha said, “People should learn to see and so avoid all danger. Just as the wise man keeps away from mad dogs, so one should not make friends with evil men.”

“Look both ways before crossing the street”
Not just for crossing the street. Stay aware of what is going on around you. Don’t busy yourself with a phone or headphones in public places. Your instinct will warn you of danger, but if you are not using your senses to gather new information your instinct will be mute.

Games for Young Children to Promote Safety

The following games are activities for children and parents that positively reinforce foundational Systema skills and personal safety.

Attention! Do not participate casually; breathe and maintain a good working state throughout. Remember that you are teaching by example.

Rolling on the Floor:: There is no need to teach a child to roll. Your child will follow you, imitate you, and do very well over time. This exercise teaches ground mobility with a splash of impact training.

Ring-Around-the-Rosie:: Great for young children. Play the song “Ring-Around-the-Rosie” over stereo and run, skip, or walk in large circles with your child. When the song plays the line “all fall down,” show your child how you fall onto the floor and get back up again. You may also listen to other children’s songs and periodically say “Fall!” and fall in place with your child. Instruct your child to try falling forward after a few rounds falling backward. If your child falls softly, tell him or her “nice fall!” This exercise teaches children to fall softly without tears or fear of falling (which generates the tension that causes harm in serious falls.) Children will fall; best teach them to fall well. Continue reading